Are you honest?

Will you tell the truth?

This Life Tip will be a test of that!  

This is for use in what should be simple choices ~ ones that are really not life changing but relate more to personal preference.

The premise here is that truth must triumph over the need to win!

Unfortunately, compromise doesn’t come into this equation.  This is for situations when only one person can get their way.

The Rating System is easy at its heart.  Each person rates each event on a scale of 1 to 10.  Whomever gives the highest number, wins.  Sounds simple but the honesty component is what is imperative here and makes it work.  Don’t immediately throw out an ‘11’!  Think about it – be honest with not only the other person, but with yourself about each situation … not all wars need to be won.

Example:

(Granted, this example is for a romantic couple but there are great examples for roommates, friends … any relationship that involves more than one person.)

The Party of the First Part wants to have a romantic picnic on the beach.  A shared blanket with some wine and music ~ connection, beauty of nature, something out of the ordinary.

The Party of the Second Part definitely does not want to do that.~ bugs, sand in the pants and in the food, who gets the food ready, why can’t we go somewhere that we can get served?

Conundrum!

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Respect comes into play here … also the desire to make each other happy and your lives together smooth sailing (as much as possible).

In this situation, the First Party has an idea that in their mind would be positive for the common good.  The Second Party is breaking it down to the logistics and the whole idea does not appeal.

(Stop stereotyping which one in a relationship would fit each role!)

Ask yourself, whichever one you are, truly how important the 2 hours of your life are and how much you are for or against the idea.  Then offer an honest answer and your rating between 1 and 10.   Sometimes you lose, sometimes you win.   Accept the result.  Embrace it.  Petulance has no place here ~ if you lose, opt to enjoy it!

If you want a positive relationship, you have to trust that the other has been honest.

Next time, the scales may tip the other way.

If you are both so inclined, negotiation is possible and bartering is recommended but there is a price to be paid!!

[photo above is of my Handsome Husband that had a lower score for this event and obviously chose to embrace the event with a smile ~ note I said handsome (and he is) but I did not say pretty … ewww! ]