I’m not really good at that.  In fact, I suck.  Ask anyone.

It has been a couple of months since my last post … that has stressed me out.

I believe my last post was at the beginning of August.

Work has been so very busy ~ summer is like that in my Profession.  It is what it is.

As earlier stated, I started this blog to set a pattern wherein I made time each week to remove myself from the normal constraints of life and work and allow me to explore what I like to do – Write.   To give myself some Zen time.

That obviously did not happen.

Steinbeck – The best-laid plans of mice and men go oft awry. 

Fall has now moved in and with it I have taken the first deep breath that I have had in a long time.  The one you have when life stops running at full speed and you can look up from your focus and see what is happening around you.

So, here I am again, writing a blog post.  Happy.

And a bit introspective.

On one side, I felt the pressure (from myself) that I needed to step up each week and fulfill my commitment to write a new piece each week.

On the other, as this has helped me grow, I am accepting that even though I set that goal for myself, I alone have the power to adjust it.

Life changing.

I have always set goals and they have become sacrosanct in my mind.  I am a strong believer that when you give your word to yourself, that’s it.  There are so very many ways that not living up to that commitment disappoints and brings you down.  It all rests in your own head.

Give Yourself a Break.

Here was my growth pattern ~ this was a hard-come-by realization. 

I first had to get over the fact that I did not follow through on the commitment I made to myself.  

Next I had to realize that I had set an ideal that did not take into account any outside influences or happenstances that my life could throw at me.

Then, and the hardest part, was to be OK with that.  To understand that stuff happens.

I have always felt that pacts, commitments, promises, vows and/or plans that you make with yourself are without exception, Not to be Broken.  They are the only ones that you truly have control of ~ they do not rely on anyone else to follow through.  It is totally within your purview to accomplish or not.  Do not disappoint!

Or so I believed.

And, now, I know that I have to Just Relax.

Just allow myself to not always be able to live up to my own set goals and plans.

To allow those goals be delayed or adjusted as life evolves.

And that is OK.

This is my Life Tip here … go with the flow a bit, allow yourself some grace.  Understand that not everything is in your control and that, at the end of the day, it will all work out.

Even an adjusted plan can work out for the best.  In fact, it may have worked out the way it was supposed to.

Take a breath.  Relax a bit.

I’m working on it.